“If nothing changes, nothing changes”

We have each experienced in our own ways the painful trauma of the emptiness of our childhood and relationships throughout our lives. We attempted to use others – our mates, our friends, and even our children, as our sole source of identity, value, and well-being and as a way of trying to restore within us the emotional losses from our childhoods.


(Dr. D Stroop 1996 taking) from Forgive our parent, Forgiving ourselves)

Forgiveness and the Twelve Steps

While the Twelve Steps to recovery was written for those addicted to alcohol, the Steps have been modified for application to a wide range of problems, such as drug addiction, sex addiction, overeating, compulsive gambling, co-dependency relationships with addicted spouses, and-yes-adult children of dysfunctional families.


Today we PRAY first four Steps:

  • Lord, I admit that I am powerless over my dependencies that my life has become unmanageable.

(Recovery from wounds of the past always begins with accepting that I am powerless over the past)


  • I came to believe that a power greater than myself could restore my sanity.

(The only power that can restore me to sanity is in that is greater than and therefore outside of myself)


  • I made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of you God as I understood you, God

(I am dealing with issues of the past, and only GOD has the ability to deal with them)


  • God, I made a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself.

(Having been emotional I spend years trying to figure out what I did to bring this pain upon myself)



Take responsibility for your own life forgive other but also forgive ourselves.


Join me tomorrow for Step five to Step eight.